The reaction of the heart is one that is emotional and almost uncontrollable, despite the certainty & logic of your mind. It is hard to act on what you think is logical but it is not impossible. And as such, it is always easier to thrive on the feelings of the heart because it “feels good” at the moment, and not the mind when it causes you strife. That’s why it is important to take time and space from the situation you are in and evaluate “Is this what I really want? Is this what I really need? Is this causing me more frustration than it is instilling joy”? And if the answer to all three is undoubtedly “yes” then consider that although your heart is at the right place and it feels so right, your mind is telling you otherwise and you should heed its fair warning. But then you say, “love is never easy” and perhaps it deserves waiting or “waiting it out” – I would evaluate whether you can consider this love when the other person can hold you back and let you fall harder in love when they have no intentions to reciprocate at the time. If they know that this is what you need and want and cannot offer it to you, the honest thing to do is to be truthful and transparent. Your mind then needs to convince your heart that this is the case and move on. A few months ago, I asked myself “Mind can conquer of matters, but can it really conquer over matters of the heart?” The answer then would have been no. But if you ask me now, the mind and heart can conquer over all matters, if you really wanted & believed they could by committing to truth of your mind’s logic.
A smart friend once told me, “Judge a man by his actions and not by his words”. Are his actions one that demonstrate love, kindness and what you deserve in return for your love? Are you in an unparalleled situation where you are giving more than is being reciprocated? Have confidence in yourself that you are someone worth being loved, cherished and valued and believe your mind when it says, that you deserve more, because you do.
The theme song of my life that I leave you with today: Kelly Clarkson – Miss Independent